Don’t dismiss these 10 red flags: Child psychologists warn parents and grandparents to stay alert

Child psychologists say these habits are not just "kids being kids." They can be warning signs that something is wrong. If parents or grandparents notice them early, they can get help and support for the child. Here are 10 red flags that parents should not dismiss. The below information is from the Parade report.

1. Not meeting growth milestones again and again

If a child is always behind in walking, talking, or learning things, that could be a big problem. Some delays are normal, but if it's regular or they go backwards in learning, talk to a doctor, according to a report.

2. Wants to use the internet in private all the time

If a child is hiding their screen or only using the net alone, it’s a warning sign. According to a report by Parade, Dr. Brett Biller, Hackensack University Medical Center, says kids are targets online because they’re young and don’t know better. Caregivers should set screen rules and talk openly about online dangers.

3. Too much screen time

Watching too many videos or games all day isn’t good. Dr. Carla Allan says this can cause sleep issues, less social life, and even weight gain. She suggests cutting screen use during meals, bedtime, and playtime.

4. Changes in eating habits

Eating way too much or too little may mean stress, sadness, or even an eating disorder. Dr. Denitrea Vaughan says this could be anxiety or a sign of deeper problems. Dr. Biller adds that kids don’t always know how their eating shows their emotions, so get help if needed, as mentioned in the report by Parade.

5. Aggressive behaviour (like hitting, biting, throwing things)

If the child always lashes out or throws long tantrums, it needs to be looked into. Dr. Regine Muradian says this can carry on into school years if not handled early. Support and guidance from a professional can help understand and fix the aggression.

6. Lying a lot

All kids lie sometimes, but lying all the time is a serious issue.
Dr. Lara Litvinov says to make truth-telling easier for kids by not scaring them. Don’t play detective if you already know the truth. Let the child explain and correct their mistakes.

7. Using bad or shocking language

Kids using curse words or rude language is not okay. Dr. Litvinov says kids today use more offensive, racist, or sexual words, especially in texts. Parents should talk openly and without shame and also use respectful words themselves.

8. Sleep problems

Kids need good sleep. Trouble falling or staying asleep again and again isn’t normal. Dr. Allan suggests fixed bedtimes, screen-free rooms, and a peaceful sleep space.

9. Biting nails all the time

Nail-biting that causes pain or bleeding can show hidden stress or anxiety. Dr. Biller says many kids don’t even realise they’re doing it or that it can harm them. It's an emotional habit that needs gentle help, not scolding.

10. Talking or thinking about suicide

This is serious. Teens especially may think life isn’t worth it sometimes. Dr. Allan says asking them directly won’t make them worse, but will help them open up. She advises keeping a close watch, hiding meds or weapons, and going to a doctor or hospital if needed.

FAQs

Q1. What are warning signs in kids that parents should not ignore?
Things like too much screen time, sudden mood changes, or always lying can be early red flags.

Q2. Why do psychologists want parents to notice these signs early?
Early action can stop small problems from becoming big ones later.